Kindness starts at home. It’s about being true to our own feelings
and values, and expressing this to other people so our feelings and
values get an airing, and so those people know where they stand with us.
If we’re not acting in a way that is kind to ourselves, we will not be acting in a way that is kind towards other people.
Kindness isn’t lending someone money when you know they’re going to spend it on drugs, alcohol, or rack up more debt.
Kindness is telling them you’re not going to lend them money and
doing what you reasonably can to support them through their journey.
Kindness isn’t heaping holier-than-thou judgement on someone in that situation.
Kindness is finding compassion and understanding for where
they’re at, while maintaining your own boundaries and respecting your
own needs.
Kindness is telling someone when we feel upset with something they said or did.
Kindness is accepting where other people are, and not trying to
change them. Kindness is accepting that might mean a toxic relationship
is over – because we can’t change other people.
Kindness is helping someone out; not to have some sort of debt owed
by them, not to try and make ourselves look good, but from a genuine
compassion for fellow human-being.
Kindness is acting without expectation of reciprocity or
recognition (although there’s nothing wrong with enjoying it). Kindness
is an anonymous donation, it’s a surprise email with no expectation of a
reply.
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